Don't Listen to Men

Originally posted 3-27-09

Don't you just luv when a guy tells you, "you don't need all that make up and stuff" or "I like natural beauty better"? I laugh heartily when I hear any man say this (and then I ask for their description of what "natural beauty" looks like. They usually go on to describe some celebrity like Christina Milian, Janet Jackson, Gabrielle Union, etc.. Nuff said.). One, if they seriously think I'm getting all dolled up solely for them, then they're egos just took a hit. Ok, some of it is for them (a whole 1%) but the vast majority of it (99%) is for MOI. I enjoy all things beauty (, fitness,) and style which I feel keeps me looking and feeling my best.

Men say all that crap but the first woman that they drool over is the one that takes great care of herself: make up done right (I'm not talking about caked on or looking like a clown), pretty hair, a body that they like, exudes confidence, etc.... Men don't know what they want b/c the minute you listen to that and start wearing sweats, not doing your hair, and letting your eyebrows grow outta shape, that's the woman that they say they wouldn't holla at because of how she carries herself, etc. LOL.

I would like to venture and say that what they really mean is that they don't want a woman that looks "superficial" or loses her self esteem when it's time to wipe off all the glitz n such, can't "live" w/o it, etc.. I can live without cosmetics but would I want to? Haaaaaails to the naw. Sorry. Ya girl enjoys it way too much. An anti make up lady I am not and any man that will be with me will know this b/c chances are when he met me, I had some on. LOL.

I don't know about you but make up, to me, is a way to ENHANCE one's beauty; adorn ones face not make you look like who done it and why. What's wrong with enhancing what ya mamma gave ya in a tasteful and classy way? And what's wrong with feeling beautiful? Tell me a woman that doesn't like to feel beautiful and I'll shake some sense into her. I'm not saying that your make up, clothes, etc. should DEFINE everything that you are as a person but let's be honest, it's FUN. We can't control what life will throw us but we have control over how we present ourselves to the world (before they sit down and talk to us). And let's face it, when you look good, you really do feel good. We're WOMEN for crying out loud. It's in our genetic make up. Even those that it's not their everyday forte, on those special occasions that they dress up they still want to look and feel slammin.

Make up or adorning our face, how we style our hair, what we wear have been core things in the lives of human beings since the beginning of time. (Even animals have various grooming rituals to keep them looking their best.) In any culture you study, ancient or current, people take pride in these components of life. It's natural to wanna look good! And I don't see anything wrong with it.

I say all this to say, don't let a dude try to pull the wool over your eyes and say "you don't need all the make up and stuff". (That's like telling them they don't NEED that XBox 360. I betcha they'll choose their words more carefully next time.) Especially if when he met you, you had your hair right, make up done, then he REALLY needs to go on somewhere. LOL. No, you don't need make up to survive (although I'm sure some might beg to differ!), per say, but you LIKE it. And if you like it and enjoy it, keep doin you. At the end of the day, it has to be for YOU. The world is still your oyster! Stake your claim! Everybody needs something for just themselves.

Happy Friday ladies!

*******4-7-09: Makeup Theory Workshops did a similar post on this topic. Check it out.*************


Christina said…
This is SO true, lol. Im so glad I'm married, because it's ok to look a mess in the mornings, and I don't have to be like those women who wake up before the whole family so no one seems them without their make-up. I do however make sure that everything is on point by the time he gets home from work! Gotta give him something to look forward too, lol. He likes me both ways though.
Milan said…
Yeah, that's a bit overboard. That's that Stepford Wives stuff. LOL. I enjoy make up but it aint THAT serious. LOL.

What you said is all I'm saying. You don't have to have it together all the time but it's ok to look good and do your make up as much or as little as you like when you want and not feel apologetic for it or like you're not "real", ya know? :0) Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
...ALLmEYEne... said…
I agree with you 100%. Its just make-up and I love it to, but I'm not in it when I'm in my comfort zone. So a man shall have to adjust, just as a woman would have to adjust to them.
Milan said…
We are so on the same page AllmEYEne!
Amina said…
you are soo right!!
alright, missy you need to tell us what you used on that beautiful fotd of yours. is that chrome yellow on your eyes?
Milan said…
It looks like Chrome right? It's just a yellow eye color from an 80 color e/s palette of mine. The only I could get the yellow to show up though was I had to use a white base (NYX Jumbo E/S Pencil in Milk) first.

I did a post on it last month. Click here for the details on what I used.
BF said: I like girls with no makeup or VERY LITTLE makeup

And he meant it!!!!

Although he doesn't say anything when I pile on the makeup for weddings and events :P

The good thing is that now for everyday, all I need is blush, concealer and eyeliner.
Milan said…
FB, me and you are on the same page! I like concealer, brow pencil, and lip gloss when I'm not bein extra. :0)
Unknown said…
You hit the nail right on the head.

This article kept it real!
ChocolateOrchid said…
So glad you reposted this! Its so true. I've learned not to believe that kind of hype coming out of a man's mouth. It's definitely always best to do yourself.

Btw, I'm lovin' the lip color in your pic posted on here. Do you recall what it is? It's gorg!