Monday, February 28, 2011

Kurly Directory: Letters to My Hair

Jenelly Bean, editor-in-chief of Kinky Curly Coily Me: has a feature on her sight called Letters to My Hair. Readers can submit, just what it sounds like, a letter to their hair. I loved the concept and knew I couldn't keep the discovery to myself. Go check it out.

Be inspired.

Currently On Repeat on my iPod: J*Davey Evil Christian Cop Mixtape

Lazy Daze from J*Davey's latest "great mistape", Evil Christian Cop.

Evil Christian Cop: The Great Mistapes Cover Art

If you're a Prince fan and totally dig his electro funk sound from the '80s, I can almost guarantee that you'll like J*Davey. Check out their bandcamp to download the mixtape for free. :D

Sunday, February 27, 2011

My Thoughts: Naturals Need Tougher Skin

Kurlies, and I may not even be really talking to my faithful kurlies; because I like to think that like attracts like, but for those new to my blog and my philosophy: we have to have a tougher skin. What do I mean by this? I mean that we can't wear our hair the way we do seeking approval from anyone outside of ourselves. This goes for any way you choose to wear your hair, honestly.

Not everyone likes afro textured hair. It's the truth. Not everyone will agree with your hairstyle decisions and methods. They just won't. But who cares? If you keep living for other people, you'll never be happy because they can always find something new that they don't like about a you, an event, situation, etc. Seeking outside approval is a never ending hampster wheel. It's imparative that we drop this heightened sensitivity towards anyone who isn't pro natural hair. Real life lesson: You can't and you won't please everyone so don't stress yourself trying.

So what some rapper said in a verse that we need perms. So what? Chances are the rapper that said that, we wouldn't even want within thirty feet of us anyway so why do we let his opinions hold any real weight? That's his opinion and he's entitled to them just like we are entitled to our opinions that we, indeed, DO NOT need perms. There are tons of men who love women with afro textured hair so date those guys, marry those guys. Be your own cheerleading stand; don't hold auditions for one. At the end of the day, outside of God, you are all you've got.. Your success and wellness is on you. No one else (again, outside of God) can provide that for you.Wear your hair however you want to wear it because that's how you want it.

Be you and despite the flack some may give you, be unapologetic about it.

Stay naturally fly :D

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Ryan Leslie - Maybachs & Diamonds

Luv Ryan Leslie. I really feel like he is my generation's Stevie Wonder in his own right. He's so musically intelligent!

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Monday, February 21, 2011

Can You Fail at Maintaining Afro Textured Hair?

Yours Truly circa fall 2009

Sure you can. You can fail at maintaining relaxed hair, wavy hair and any other kind of hair. I think the failure with caring for afro textured hair comes from a lack of information and lack of determination and patience to continue trying things till you find what works best for your hair. A lot of people want a quick fix, quick answers, quick solutions and quick results. My first year of being natural was all about experimentation: trying out different products, hairstyles, techniques and methods to see what I liked and that my hair responded positively to. It took me about a year and some things I'm still playing around with. It will take some people longer or less than I took to figure things out. When it comes to any aspect of your life, you have to take things as guides and based off of those guides, find what works for you. We are not cookie cutter beings and are all made in the many facets of God's image. That's why it's great to have hair inspirations and all but at the end of the day, you've got to love your hair for what it is and do right by it so yo can inspire someone else to do the same.

Check out this recent article on Curly Nikki: "Is It Possible to Fail at Natural Hair?" It inspired me to give my brief two cents on the topic. What do you think?

Friday, February 18, 2011

Style, Beauty and Lifestyle e-Mags Made For Us and By Us

Check out these awesome Black beauty, style and lifestyle e-Magazines that I totally dig and think that some of you will too. They provide loads of inspiration, cover style and beauty, entertainment and many of the articles also give you something to think about as well. Enjoy.

Baby sister to Clutch Magazine, pictured further down this post, it takes off where Clutch touches on but doesn't focus entirely on in the fashion, style and beauty realm. The article pictured definitely has given me some ideas!

EXUDE Magazine
Please note: I write for this magazine so of course I had to shout it out! Check out the "Ice Qweens" editorial we did, pictured above. I was the lead make up artist for the shoot. :D

Clutch Magazine
Another great e-Publication. Clutch is Coco & Creme Magazine's big sister. While Clutch does cover some fashion and beauty, it mainly contains articles to spark conversation about various things going on in the black community, black female community or things in the country and world and how they affect the black community and how to enhance the black experience.

Happy Reading! And stay naturally fly. ;D

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

African Export Shares Different Ways to Rock a Twist OUt

Want to get the most mileage out of your twist out? Check out African Export's: vid on some simple styles that you can rock on you T.O. and subscribe to her channel if you haven't already. Her videos are informative, creative, funny, honest and just all out ROCK!

I can't wait for the weather to warm up a little bit more, even if it could just get to the 50's (degrees farenheit) so I can start wearing my hair out again! Flat twist outs and braid outs are my favorite spring/summer hairstyles.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

PSA: My Blog is from My Perspective

I have many opinions on things but just because my opinions do not jive with others I DO NOT get emotionally invested in their choices unless they are choices that are based in something negative. Example, while I can't knock anyone's hustle or means of survival, I will not condone selling illegal drugs that ruin people's livelihood, families and communities. I will not think that I am above that person but I will not support their actions either.

Bringing it back to the blog. I may talk about things that I dislike that some of you like or things I like that some of you dislike. I've stated on here countless times, do what works for you. My goal is always to provide information and inspire people to come to their own conclusions. Because it is my blog and written from my point of view, my opinions will be incorporated in things. So if you are sensitive to thoughts other than your own on things, I suggest you not read this blog.

I know, my regular readers are like, where is this coming from???? I've had some recent posts that were interesting to say the least but I'm putting it out there that this blog will not please everyone and I do not aim for it to please everyone b/c it simply is inhumanely possible. So this is AGrlCanMac, take it or leave it. Either way, I'll continue doing this until I no longer enjoy it (which I hope doesn't happen).

Back to our regularly scheduled blogging now. :D

Monday, February 14, 2011

Major KURLspiration: Hi I'm Currently Obsessed

Hi I'm Currently Obsessed

I am constantly getting inspiration from this site. It is updated frequently and I love what it promotes. From time to time there is a nude or partial nude photo on there, it's not frequent though, so if that's not so much your thing, you've been notified!

Be inspired. :D

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Too Lazy to Straighten Up

Back in my TWA days (Jan or Feb 2009) :D

Kurlies, I can't bring myself to straighten my hair, not because I'm afraid of heat damage. I can't bring myself to straighten my hair outta sheer laziness. Lol. Yea, you read right. Everytime I say I'm going to straighten my hair, I get lazy and decide not to. Usually the farthest I'll get, is blowing it out; sometimes I don't even get that far. Hehe.

By the time I'm not lazy enough to go through with it, it'll be too hot and humid for it to last. Watch.

Such is life.

Stay naturally fly.

Friday, February 11, 2011


I can't get enough of this pic! It's gonna be so dope when I have a blow out like 'ol girl on the far left. And aren't the flowers in the hair just gaw-geous?! Be inspired. :D

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Hair Tubes

I luv them. I made this one after seeing some cute ones on

They're great because they provide a secure hold yet pose way less stress on the hair line. I think they are better than goody elastic bands that most kurlies usually use for puffs.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Sofysticated Phunk Re-Opened!

With new styles and a fresh, new banner, I re-opened my esty shop, Sofysticated Phunk, this past weekend. :D I've been adding styles this week and will be the duration of the week. Please visit if you like and see what ya girl has up her sleeve.

One of the styles that I have up on the shop right now.

I have some more items that I'll be adding this weekend that I'm really excited about. I'll do a post rocking them so you can see.

My week is going well. Just so over the winter weather now. Bring on spring! Today, I found an awesome discount fabric store in the City not too far from where I work. They've got tons of $3 and $4 a yard fabrics that will be a part of my spring and summer wardrobe this year.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

My Concerns With Natural Hair Categories

If you are entrenched in the online, natural hair world, then you are more than likely aware of the categories that have been created and instituted like some of  these described below:

* Militant, Everything natural, Naturals - Don't do anything "unnatural" to their hair or anything to alter its original texture, use no heat or hair color, are anti weaves or wigs, use all natural ingredient products, and even shun styles like braid outs and twist outs b/c it's (temporarily) altering the original texture. Anything outside of what they do means you hate your God given texture and hate yourself. There is a small population of some who do not have this mindset and just hold themselves to these standards.

* Straight Naturals - Wear their hair straight over 90% of the time via direct and/or indirect heat.

*Texlaxed Naturals - Use relaxer or texturizer to loosen their curl pattern just a bit. They are not going for the straight look necessarily.

* BKT naturals - Wear their hair straight most of the time via the B.razilian K.ertin T.reatment but many also utilize in loosening their kurl pattern for aesthetic and/or manageability effects.

* Colored Naturals - Self explanatorily, color their hair. Color has the capacity to loosen one's kurl pattern but not everyone experiences this and it happens in individual degrees. Those who color are normally not looking for deliberate kurl loosening, they simply want a different hair color.

* Heat Trained Naturals - Deliberately use heat to loosen their kurl pattern. This deliberate use of heat also creates an easier straightening process and longer lasting straight looks. Many feel this is a healthier option to using caustic chemicals like BKT, relaxers and texturizers.

* Who Gives A Flying $!#k Naturals - Do whatever they feel like doing to their hair: grow it long and then cut it if they feel like, dabble in color if they want, use heat when they feel like it, swear off heat when they feel like, use products that work for their hair rather they be all natural ingredient products or not, etc.

If I chose a category, I'd be the last one. I don't care what anyone else does to their hair. I worry about myself and do what I feel like doing with it.

I think the categorizing can be helpful in so many ways for those seeking specific information and inspiration along their journey but a lot of cases, from my observations, it is not used for constructive purposes. It is more so used for devision so individuals of different categories can feel better about themselves and their choices. Hair is coo but it shouldn't have a lot of power. Don't be your hair. It can't solve all your personal problems and insecurities. How a person wears their hair, contrary to the sometimes belief, does not say anything about a person's character. I know insecure naturals, negative energy naturals and rude naturals. I also know insecure relaxed women, negative energy relaxed women and rude relaxed women. Let's stop being so self righteous and learn to just enjoy hair again; whatever your definition of that is. Our choices are our choices and don't make us any better than the next person. They just make us different. At the end of the day, what's another person's hair choices got to do with you or the rent getting paid? Ya dig?

Friday, February 4, 2011

Mineral Oil May Not Be The Devil?

Hmm.... After reading an article comparing mineral oil and coconut oil on Naturally Curly, I'm a little on the fence about how maliciously I view mineral oil. Before I read how bad it was, it never hurt my hair, personally. I mean after all, back in the day, most of our moms used mineral oil based products on our hair and it looked great and was long. Me and my sister's was anyway. Mineral oil does have good benefits, now. It's great for blocking moisture from hair which can be a good and a bad thing. Example: it can be a great thing when your hair is already properly moisturized and you apply it on top to seal in the moisture and block out any extra in the air that would create frizz. It can be a bad thing if your hair is very dry and you apply it on top; now additional moisture is blocked from getting to your hair. You see? It's all in understanding mineral oil and how to use it your advantage.

It now makes sense why mommy pressed our hair with pressing grease that had mineral oil in it. Looking back, I realize that our reversion and frizz rates were very low. Our hair also didn't dry out as fast. At least for the first 2 weeks or so, we were guaranteed soft, frizz free hair. I could probably extend that as an adult now. Back then we were busy kids who didn't really care if it reverted too fast or not. Our hair was well moisturized underneath so the mineral oil held that in thus keeping our hair soft.

I encourage you all to take a look at the article and come to your own conclusions about it. Still don't think I'll go out recommending it to folks but hey, to each his own.

I guess my thing is still, how eco-friendly is mineral oil? I'd also like to find an article/research that compared it to castor oil. Guess I've got some research to do. I will report back with any findings I encounter for those that are interested or maybe I can inspire Jc over at The Natural Haven to share her thoughts on mineral oil vs castor oil (I'd better double check her site. She may have an article up on this already). Hehe. I know you're reading! :D

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

My Favorite Henna Mix Recipe of All Time

1 cup of Nupur Henna
Coconut milk
1 Tbsp Grapeseed Oil
1 Tsp Honey (or Agave Nectar)

Instructions (if your hair is longer than mine, you will want to increase this recipe):
- Place henna in plastic or glass bowl
- Pour enough coconut milk and stir (with a plastic or wooden spoon) until the thick, muddy consistency is achieved
- Stir in the grapeseed oil
- Add honey or agave nectar (I use whatever I have on hand) and stir
- Wash/cleanse hair first
- Apply mix to damp hair, in sections and using plastic, latex or vinyl gloves (or you'll have orange palms and nails for a few weeks) and leave on for at least 30 mins. Heat is optional. I don't use it.
- Rinse with just water first. This will get most of henna out. Then apply (cheapie) conditioner or a gentle shampoo/cleanser to get the rest out. Repeat as many times as necessary till water runs clear. I like to use a gentle cleanser and only have to apply once to get the remaining henna out.

NOTE: I DON'T USE HENNA FOR COLOR so my mixes are not for that. Please keep that in mind if you try it out.  This mix leaves my hair feeling incredibly soft and defined and rinses out like a dream. Remember, this is not the end all be all henna recipe; there are MANY. This is just my favorite one, after trying and creating many different recipes of my own over time. Tweek it however you see fit. For more information on henna and how to get started, please visit  I learned everything I know about henna from there.

I try to do a henna treatment once a month. I apply mine right away after mixing because I am not going for the color effects (I wouldn't get any anyway) and leave it on for 30 minutes at most. Sometimes I leave it in longer but those times that I do are just outta sheer laziness. Hehe. :D

Henna rocks!

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Straight Natural

Many of us rock our kinks and koils straightened for the cold months. Check out this tutorial from JerzeyStylezz: on how to straighten natural hair.

I semi-straightened my hair back in December but now I think I'm ready to full out straighten my hair and see what I get. Funny thing is, I will probably do pin curls and (try out) bantu knot outs for body and texture. Lol. I wrote this post a while ago (scheduled it for release today) so I may have straightened my hair by the time this posts. Be on the lookout.

And remember, just because a kurly straightens her hair doesn't mean she hates her original texture. It just means she's blessed to be able to "have it all". :D Stay naturally fly.


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